TRUST Model

Last semester in my leadership class, my group and I developed the TRUST Model for our Leadership project. The intention was simple: every topic we covered throughout the course dealt with interpersonal relationships, but none of them addressed how to build the most important part of any relationship, that is, trust. So this model helps people to first become a trustworthy individual and then move into trusting relationships with others.

Here’s how the TRUST acronym works:

  • Talented
  • Reliable
  • Unifying Mission
  • Supportive
  • Transparent

Imagine there are two magnifying glasses hovering over the word TRUST. The first magnifying glass includes the first 3 letters which stand for Talented, Reliable, and Unifying Mission. This is the Personal Lens. The second magnifying glass includes the last 3 letters which stand for Unifying Mission, Supportive, and Transparent. This is the Interpersonal Lens.

So to become a trustworthy person, it would help to become talented at the specific task you’re focusing on and reliable showing up each day with the same vigor and effectiveness. Next, it’s time to move into relationships with others. To get other people to place their trust in you, being supportive of them and honest are musts. To tie everything altogether, it’s important to always consider the Mission, the cause greater than yourself, that unites you and your teammate together.

This is how to become a Trustworthy person that can enter into trusting relationships with others.

What’s a Light?

What makes a light more meaningful: that it produces light, or that it shows us what’s right in front of us?

Wisdom Book: January 4, 2019

My girlfriend and I have a podcast called It’s All Mahalo. The premise is fairly simple: each Friday, Camille and I write a list of the things we learned that week. We write these lists in our “Wisdom Books” (thanks for the inspiration, Chip Conely). Then, we share these lists with each other in a conversation that we record. In one way or another, we tie what we learned back to Mahalo, or Gratitude. We remember that there is always something to be grateful for, each week of our lives.

I’ve decided that each Saturday I’ll share my Wisdom Book for the week with you all. To hear Camille’s list and how our learning unites, you’ll have to stay tuned & listen to our podcast when it’s released. Until then, enjoy my Wisdom Book from this past week (the first week of the year).

January 4, 2019

Small Steps to Get Back on Track

The holidays are filled with a lot of family time and a lot of rich foods, meals, and desserts. This year was no different. I found myself feeling uncomfortable with my body and wanting to lost about 8 pounds before competition season in track. That seems like an insurmountable number to be lost within the next couple of weeks, but it’s not about losing it all at once. It’s about the small steps and decisions that move me towards that goal. It’s the reality that I can actually achieve any goal with patience and persistence, but I have to remember that I can’t solve the whole problem all at once

The Body Knows Best

If I eat something I shouldn’t eat, my body will tell me. If I am tired a lot and am unsure why, my body will make sure I feel it so I can find out why. If I am really sore and didn’t recover well from a workout, my bod will let me feel it. If I don’t feel good but still run a solid workout, my body will prove to me that it can do more than my mind thinks it can. In all, my body will know the truth far before my mind knows it. Being in touch with my body is a direction I have to move into this year.

Failure to Plan is Planning to Fail

These past few weeks, I’ve been pretty lackluster with my daily scheduling and planning. I’ll have an idea of what to accomplish but won’t put it on the schedule. This means it never gets done. In this new year, I want to be more organized and committed to my daily planning without feeling like I’m a slave to my schedule. Zig Ziglar said that you should have one calendar for your entire life. I’m going to adopt this principle to get a better handle on my daily planning.

This World is Magical

I’ve been watching a lot of nature documentaries this week. This was spurred by an interview I saw with 93 year old David Attenborough (the legend) and 16 year old Greta Thunberg. Anyways, I’ve been fascinated by the complexity and beauty of our natural world, as well as the majesty at which these documentary crews film the world. This world is magical, and we ought to remember that whenever we get bogged down by our daily troubles.

What Makes a Gift

I once herd it said that, “A gift is only a gift when it’s given a second time.” The man I heard this from said it was a Native American tradition, one that involved a selfless sharing. In the age of personalized packages sent across the world at the click of a button, this tradition has lost traction.

What would it mean to give the gifts you receive a second time? It would be case specific, but there also are probably some similar principles evident throughout. Perhaps, that if something is given to you, it isn’t really yours but is now under your jurisdiction. Maybe this is a reminder that nothing is really ours, that everything is merely borrowed from Mother Earth.

If that’s the case, then maybe giving a gift a second time entails honoring the gift by using it for a life-affirmative purpose, one that returns life back to the earth we take from. Maybe. Or maybe, more simply, it’s about using gifts for a purpose greater than yourself. This broader vision would surely culminate in giving back to source.

As the days of gift giving come to an end, think about the gifts you’ve received throughout your life, both the tangibles and the intangibles. Respond to them with gratitude. Then, and only then, should you share our gift with the rest of creation, affirming it in its holy wholeness.

How to be Here in 2020: Creating Meaningful Intentions

I don’t make resolutions as much as intentions. A resolution can be kept or broken. An intention is a standard the can be measured up to. When trying times come, the intention remains, standing tall like a stick stands in the mud. My intention for 2020 is to remind myself that, “I Am Here.”

I spent a good portion of the last decade worrying. I worried about past mistakes, about future challenges, and about if I would ever become successful. I can happily report that most of what I worried about was nonsensical, though some of it manifested as I had thought. For instance, I didn’t yet die from running a hard workout, but Flow Training hasn’t taken off as I had hoped, meaning I’m running tight on cash.

But there is good news through it all: I am still here. My feet are planted firmly on the ground and my life, though uncertain, continues on. Joyfully.

You know the smell of burning hair? The one that occurs when your hairs are singed as you carelessly cook on a gas stove? If you’re like me, you almost instantly get upset at yourself, wondering how you could be so foolish. You fail to recognize the bigger picture: maybe your hairs got burned so your skin wouldn’t have to.

2019 was the year of anger over singed hairs. 2020 is the year of gratitude for the burns and no expectations for anything less the next time I cook. 2020 is for being here, now, as the late Ram Das suggested.

I Am Here, and that’s what matters.

Year of the Blog

A lot happened in 2019. I started a lot of projects, embarked on some adventures, and learned many valuable lessons. I spent a lot of time thinking about the future with my girlfriend and begging new hobbies along the way. Together, her and I started a podcast, no small feat, and began flipping things on eBay. Flow Training released it’s first training program, Reimagined. I went from injured athlete to Captain in track.

2020 will bring even more challenges and changes. My track career will be ending in May. I’ll be graduating. Decisions about life after college will be made. Flow Training will grow from 400 followers to…many more. We will make an impact. And I want to blog every day to document it. For real this time.

What can you expect from me this year? More commitment to the things I love. More authenticity and less gimmicky fitness motivation. A little deeper view of my life through Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, LinkedIn, and Twitter. All of these things for one reason: because I want to.

Cheers to 2020.

I missed 5 days, but Here’s a Poem

This week was the first time since July I missed some days of blogging. I was planing on going back and writing a blog for each day I missed, but that’s ridiculous. Better to start fresh. As I like to say, Nunc Coepi—now I begin. Now I begin to blog every day again, until the end of time.

I’ve made a commitment to start “creating” at least once a week. Right now, this means sitting down and free writing. I free wrote this past Tuesday and creating some interesting work. Here’s one of the thoughts (if you can call it that) that I created:

Reality is a broken rocking chair.  It’s uncomfortable and you can’t lean back as far as you’d like, but you sit in it and hope anyways.  Hope is dangerous.  I tell myself to stop hoping every day.  I say, “Don’t hope.  Make it happen.  Think it into existence and existence will follow suit.”  I am a father wearing a banana suit into Walmart.  His kids aren’t around, but he’s rehearsing his act. Uncomfortable resistance, too drastic to be saved for Halloween.  Why do I hate Halloween?

I like the first line and the line about the banana, but the rest doesn’t make too much sense (yet). I like writing and not knowing what it means. It’s the half-known world, the uncertain realm of the universe. Certainty bores me and cannot be trusted. I want to be okay with being uncertain, more like the weather. Less like construction plans.

Here’s to an uncertain life on a rock floating through nothingness.

My Most Patient Self

I’ve been working on being more patient lately. I’m trying to practice patience when I’m driving, interacting with loved ones, and sitting in class. It’s really a whole-systems approach, and I’ve been attacking it by addressing my core wound of always wanting to be in control. I have good days and bad days, but overall I’ve seen improvement.

I went to visit my Grandpa today. He is 88 and living in an assisted living facility. He was a soldier during peacetime in WWII and a math teacher for years in Goshen, New York. Now, he has Parkinson’s. It’s hard for him to get words out sometimes, but he’s still sharp as a tack. I have to give him time to get his words out when he’s talking, and though I still have trouble understanding him from time-to-time, giving him the space to speak helps him out.

This situation forces me to give up control, be patient, and listen instead of talk. Awkward silences are not only the price of admission but welcome, for it is only by silence that Grandpa can get his point across. Camille came with me to visit him today. On the ride home, she told me she’s never seen a more patient version of me than when I’m with my Grandpa. That made me take a step back.

Patience can manifest in many forms, but it’s always here, always accessible, and always beneficial. I want to be My Most Patient Self every day, not just when I visit my Grandpa. This is my patient ideal. What’s yours?

Motherless Brooklyn

Edward Norton — On Creative Process, Creative Struggle, and Motherless Brooklyn (#393)

Leaders are learners.  A good leader is somebody who is open to new ideas and perspectives no matter what discipline they come from.  In terms of current events, I couldn’t think of a more powerful account of vision than Edward Norton’s vision in creating Motherless Brooklyn.  Based off of a 1999 novel by Jonathan Lethem, Motherless Brooklyn follows the story of Lionel Essrog, a New York City detective with Tourette’s.  

Shortly after reading the novel, Edward Norton read it, loved it, and secured the rights to create a film adaptation of it.  Norton worked on the film for over 15 years–he suffered a few writers blocks, a few breaks from acting, and couldn’t rest until he made the perfect film.  He wouldn’t be satisfied until his vision for the film matched the quality of the novel, a task few films ever meet.  This conversation on the Tim Ferriss show delves into Norton’s project of creating this film.  

His dedication to the creative process and final production of this film is truly inspiring for all of us leaders who have dreams that people don’t think we can attain.  Norton proves the opposite.  Apparently this movie is excellent, from the soundtrack to the cinematography. 

My Learning, Creating, and Meditating Schedule

These are three modalities I will use to help discover more about who I am, what I am, and how I am called to serve: by learning, by creating, and by meditating. Here are the rules for each.

Learning Rule: read something I want to read

Creating Rule: write, design, or craft personal art

Meditating Rule: any kind of mindful seated / standing

For the remainder of the semester, I will be Learning on Sunday – Thursday, I will be creating on Tuesday, and I will be Meditating on Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday.

I am on a mission to discover myself so I can better myself. This only becomes possible through daily and weekly habits. Nothing meaningful gets accomplished without purposefully crafted and diligently executed habits.