The root of the word “religion” comes from the word “relationship.” This is why faiths are called religions—because they support you in entering a relationship with the divine, with God. While spirituality on its own is an individual pursuit that lacks a shared vision with others, religion offers you every means necessary (from community to value structures) to convene with the creator. Religion contains spirituality, but not vice versa.

My girlfriend and I have been getting into more arguments than usual lately. We’ve also been spending a lot of time together. Today she pointed out that becasue we’re with each other so much, we don’t have enough opportunities to be with ourselves and grow. She said this lack of personal growth might be leading to a halt in our relationship, inevitably holding us both back.

My relationship with God has changed over time. Sometimes we’re best friends and do everything together. Sometimes we spend too much time together and I grow intellectually and spiritually stagnant. Other times I drift away from God to learn about myself, only to come running back into open arms, ready to rebuild and grow together again.

I love religion, and I love my religion. I love my God and I love my girlfriend. I love myself enough to be alone, to confront the confused and scared man in the mirror.

This is religion at its core. This is the practice faith calls us to.